Can I start off by saying? Who the fuck actually knows how to cope with grief?
Does experiencing the sorrow of your loved ones help OUR pain?
This blog is an opinion to say the very least. I have a number of beliefs about our mental states as people and the way we process things.
I want to say it gets better; I really want to say it gets better. To be honest I'm not sure it ever does. Be it the death of a loved one, or even the death of a relationship. How do we ever really move on?
Do We Really Move On?
I've been wondering this a lot lately guys, and I've come to the conclusion that I don't think we do. It's like being taken over and then rebuilt with the pain as a part of your new self.
That's the real purpose of this post. I want to encourage everyone to stop looking for the pain to go away. I want to encourage you to forge a new being out of the hell we all walk in.
Do we really move on? Fuck no. We grow and evolve to make the pain bearable. Jordan Peterson might say we have an ironclad set of goals and values that sustain us through the pain.
But what if we don't?
What Sustains Us If Nothing Is Left?
Say we fucked up, we didn't fortify ourselves what now? I say from the bottom of my heart, in the worst place my life has ever been.
We Start to Fucking Fortify!
There is always Faith or Psychology or whatever floats your boat. I'm going a different route.
I refuse as a man to be conquered by my own pain or mind. I have the near superhuman ability to do with my mind and emotions as only I please.
Everyone reading this if anybody ever does. Has that same ability.
What needs to sustain us IS THE PAIN, the responsibility to the suffering in our lives!
All the pain and the suffering were to force us to grow. If we don't grow, we simply lose the game.
To the Young Men especially. It is our responsibility to God and ourselves to SUFFER IMPROVE and GROW in dangerous willfully restrained and good men.
How To Adapt Grief?
No matter the pain, we grind. We Grow. We Evolve
Focus on practical and meaningful tasks aimed at improving your life.
Any time a person in grief has free to grieve, they will.
Stay Focused.
Don't let ANYTHING distract you from achieving your positive goal, especially yourself
Use your anger and sadness as fuel to improve and grow.
Don't let your emotions be an excuse. Make them the fucking drive!
Let Your Mind Process, Act ANYWAYS
The harsh and negative thoughts will keep existing until they are ready to go away. It's a test Keep pushing through them and conquer EVERYTHING
I'm in the worst stage of my life guys. My best friend is dead, my girlfriend of 6 years is gone, I have no money, and I'm still saying this shit. There is Nothing that can stop any of you except yourselves.
Feel whatever you need to feel and power the fuck through life anyways.
I'm here with you.
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